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I think I can finally say that things are coming together in my life. By all means I still don’t have all the answers to everything but I am definitely not the same person I was when I started my journey. I have a lot to be grateful for at this stage and could not be happier. It is fascinating what positive reinforcement from both friends and family can do for your own personal growth. As a result of such a strong foundation, I have learned a lot within the last year. I’ve learned that sometimes you need to sacrifice the feelings of others temporarily if it makes a positive impact on your well being. I’ve learned that some of the most complicated and daunting things in life involve taking risks; but without risks life is left without excitement and surprise. I’ve learned how important it is to be fearless, even if you have to force yourself for a while (you’ll eventually get there) you can truly accomplish any thing your heart desires to. With fearlessness comes a whole new world of opportunity! Last but definitely not least, I’ve recently discovered the difference between loving someone and falling absolutely head over heels in love with someone.

If you ask me life is pretty good right now. All I had to do was take control of it. However, I also know that God is ultimately in control, and for that I am forever blessed.

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Xo Chaylavie

5 Reasons Why Being a Nice Girl Blows

Yeah, I am that girl…The one who is overly friendly, will find humour in most of the jokes you tell, feel guilty refusing to do you a favour and will probably never confront you if you hurt my feelings. I am what society would refer to as “The Nice Girl” or maybe even “The Girl Next door” (unfortunately nothing like Elisha Cuthbert). But more importantly, I am that girl who, especially if you are of the opposite sex, will most likely send you all the wrong signals. Being the nice girl definitely has its up’s. I mean, for one, we never lack in the friend department. This is simply because most people enjoy our company since we possess such a positive outlook on just about everything. As a result, our social life can be quite full of excitement and events. We can always count on someone to lend us a hand. People usually have a hard time saying no to a bright eyed, smiling, friendly gal. In addition, what is even more satisfying about being nice is that we have the ability to make others happy. That in itself is a reward. However, like all things, being that nice girl (or person in general) has its disadvantages. Let me explain:

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When It Is Important To Be Selfish

No one wants to be considered selfish. In fact, there is such a stigma about the act of selfishness that many never consider the idea that in someways it can actually be beneficial to one. However, when you are a young adult in this big scary world you will find there are times when being a little self-concerned are absolutely necessary. You just need to stand up tall, be brave and go for what YOU want. The catch here is you only get ONE chance at life (and being that hot, young person you are) so ensure that you are doing what is beneficial to your well-being. Do not wait, do it now!

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What makes YOU happy? Yeah, you should probably do that

Let me start off by saying that I am in no way, shape or form a psychologist. Nope, not even close. Actually, to be quite honest I do not have the slightest desire to even try to delve into the behaviour and mental processes of another human being. To me that is just plain exhausting. However, from time to time I get all sentimental (yes I can be a suck) and think about the one commonality that most of us share in this world. The desire for true Happiness. My quest for knowledge on such a topic is not necessarily because I myself am not happy (although, there have been times which I could tell you otherwise) but rather because of how desirable it is. The feeling of happiness is one of the most beautiful and amazing emotions that we are able to experience so it makes sense why we all yearn for it. But is it really attainable and if so, how does one capture and ensure it will never slip away? And an even bigger question lies within a paradox itself; if so many people are really searching for it then why are so many without it?

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